Monthly Archives: June 2010

The Rocking of Earth Beneath Your Feet

I’m trying to get my head around something tonight and not having much success. My sister Colby called me this evening.  She’s staying with my folks today and I’m due up there on Wednesday.  She called to give me a … Continue reading

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Blessings Where You Find Them

There’s a scene in the movie “The Milagro Bean Field Wars” where elderly Amarante  wakes up, looks in the mirror, and says “Thank you, God, for giving me another day.”  I’ve decided to adopt that attitude, to make a conscious … Continue reading

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The Sharp Edge of Truth

I’m as selfish as the next person.  I want my time to be my own.  I want to dictate how it’s spent.  I want to do what I want, when I want.  I don’t want to be inconvenienced.  This attitude puts me into … Continue reading

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It Boggles the Mind

This just in from my friend Aline Poythress in Virginia: A young man named Bucky Anderson in Broadway, a town very near us, was killed by a roadside bomb in Afghanistan and is being buried today.  That alone is an … Continue reading

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The Damage We Do

Talk about dichotomy.  Recent events have underscored it in ways that could not be more pronounced.  First, the con: I’ve been talking with a cousin about my mother’s decline into Alzheimer’s, the death of her parents (her father was Mom’s … Continue reading

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In Praise of Early Mornings

I’ve always been a morning person.  It’s a trait inherited from my father, I suppose.  He had to get up early for work, but it suited him.  Even on his days off he was awake and out early, busy at … Continue reading

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At the Intersection of Alzheimer’s and Blessing

My mother is closer to the dead than to the living. They populate her days; a ceaseless parade of faces from the past.  Parents and grandparents.  Brothers and sisters.  Friends and grandchildren and one great-grandchild.  Names slip from the increasing … Continue reading

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