All About Perspective

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Humans are self-centered creatures.  Even the most self-sacrificing among us have our moments of total narcisism, those instances when we’re so focused on our own lives that everything else disappears.

And being human, we have a tendency to focus on the bad rather than the good.  Oh, we’ll celebrate our golden moments, sure we will, but we also love to expound on the darkness with which we deal.  The spectrum is broad — elderly parents, sick animals, children of every stripe, divorce, acne, disease, speeding tickets, allergies — and it’s not unusual, from time to time, to think our burdens are the worst.

I’m no different.  I get overwhelmed by the stuff that comes down the pike and feel petulant and whiny.  But not today.  A couple bits of news came my way and you know something?  I have nothing to complain about.

A woman I know, a lovely woman who for some reason attracts hideous situations like honey draws wasps, just found out that her troubled young daughter was slipped a date-rape drug and sexually assaulted multiple times.  And one of my cousins, as nice a woman as you could ever hope to meet, has just been diagnosed with breast cancer.

Do you see what I mean?  Compared to those things, my issues fade to nothing.

Tonight, as you’re drifting off to sleep, rather than sigh and focus on all the things wrong in your life, take a moment to seek out the blessings that you might not have acknowledged in some time.  And while you’re at it, say a prayer for the two women I mention above, okay?  They could really use it.


About Melissa Crandall

Longer ago than I care to admit--although I will--I cut my writing teeth on fanzines and media tie-in novels. Since then, I've moved on to narrative nonfiction, speculative fiction, and essays. I write to explore and understand the world around me, the things I see and experience nearby or from a distance. If I shake myself up, cool. If I shake you up, even better. Not gratuitously--what's the point in that?--but to set what I know, or think I know, on end and realize, "Well, doesn't it look different from this side!" My work is neither sexually explicit nor graphically violent. Let's face it - your imaginations will come up with things far worse than anything I could write, no matter how descriptive. Besides, it's just not my thing. I live in Connecticut with my supportive husband Ed, a cat named Ruby who might just think she's a dog, and an epileptic Australian shepherd named Holly who isn't quite certain anymore who she is, except she knows she loves her mommy.
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2 Responses to All About Perspective

  1. eileeneldred says:

    A timely reminder, thank you! Sending prayers and strength to your ladies, keeping them in my thoughts to keep me on track with what’s important.

  2. John says:

    My thughts go out to your friend, her daughter and your cousin. and you’re dead-on. It’s all about perspective. 🙂

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