Author Archives: Melissa Crandall

About Melissa Crandall

Longer ago than I care to admit--although I will--I cut my writing teeth on fanzines and media tie-in novels. Since then, I've moved on to narrative nonfiction, speculative fiction, and essays. I write to explore and understand the world around me, the things I see and experience nearby or from a distance. If I shake myself up, cool. If I shake you up, even better. Not gratuitously--what's the point in that?--but to set what I know, or think I know, on end and realize, "Well, doesn't it look different from this side!" My work is neither sexually explicit nor graphically violent. Let's face it - your imaginations will come up with things far worse than anything I could write, no matter how descriptive. Besides, it's just not my thing. I live in Connecticut with my supportive husband Ed, a cat named Ruby who might just think she's a dog, and an epileptic Australian shepherd named Holly who isn't quite certain anymore who she is, except she knows she loves her mommy.

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Funny. I never thought I’d be back on these pages. What’s done is done and what’s gone is gone, do-dah, do-dah. But things happen. See, I thought Alzheimer’s was done with me–or me with it–once Mom died. There was fall-out, … Continue reading

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Paying It Forward

Just when I think this blog is over, something comes up that I feel I ought to include just in case. Yesterday, I drove to the nursing home where Mom died and donated her shower chair, walker, and the wheelchair … Continue reading

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Riding the Wave

Hello, everyone. I thought I’d touch base,say hi, see how you’re all doing. Yesterday was the three-month anniversary of Mom’s death. Grief is like the ocean, rising and falling, and the one grieving is like the beach, taking what comes. … Continue reading

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Mom Has The Last Word

Bit of backstory – yesterday was my mom’s funeral. Afterward, we gathered at the home of my niece Michelle.  This morning, I rec’d this message from Nichole, who is married to my nephew Josh (Michelle’s brother). They have a not-quite-4-year-old … Continue reading

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And Just Like That …

… she’s gone.

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So It Begins

As of yesterday, Mom has begun her “transition” to death. Please keep her in your prayers.

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Got talking with the other members of my support group. The general consensus is that caretaking is lonely business. Despite assurances from family, they often aren’t available. Some of their excuses are legitimate, but sometimes it’s obviously bullshit. Too often … Continue reading

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