Category Archives: Mother

Shoveling Shit Uphill with a Sieve

One of the most difficult things caretakers of Alzheimer’s patients have to deal with is their hatred of the job.  I’m fairly open regarding my feelings, but even so I’m often bowed by guilt over the depth of my negative … Continue reading

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Doctor, Why Does It Hurt When I Do This?

When you love someone with dementia, it feels like your life is eroding piece by piece.  I don’t mean the daily grind of caring for them, the slip and slide beneath your feet as the ground you thought was solid turns … Continue reading

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All About Perspective

Last week, on the way to the optometrist, I took Mom to the beach in Niantic for an hour. She doesn’t remember any of it.  Not the trip to the optometrist, not the eye exam or multiple tests, not picking … Continue reading

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Antidote to Stress

After four hours in the ER with Mom yesterday (she’s fine; just some shortness of breath), this is what I need to take the edge off.

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Heigh-Ho, Come to the Fair

Today we took my 88-year-old, pacemaker wearin’,  Alzheimer-afflicted mother to her first Renaissance Faire. She loved it! I admit I was a little concerned.  I wasn’t sure her mind could fit itself around the fantasy of the Faire.  Bear in … Continue reading

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Yesterday I had my first occasion of burnout since Mom came to live here three weeks and four days ago.  I was upstairs cleaning one of the bathrooms when I both heard and felt the final straw snap.  (She was … Continue reading

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Pulling Weeds

Hanging around outside today, playing with the dog and waiting for the guys from Fireside to arrive and deliver our load of ECO Bricks (4 pallets, 4 tons = warm house this winter), I began to lackadaisically and somewhat haphazardly pull … Continue reading

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