Tag Archives: Relationships

Shoveling Shit Uphill with a Sieve

One of the most difficult things caretakers of Alzheimer’s patients have to deal with is their hatred of the job.  I’m fairly open regarding my feelings, but even so I’m often bowed by guilt over the depth of my negative … Continue reading

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Ain’t Gonna Crawl

I’m not good at patching up relationships once they’ve fallen apart. Granted, some relationships are (and should be) beyond saving.  If you’re in a situation where you’re being used in any number of wrongful ways and you find the guts to … Continue reading

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Oh, Dad

I’ve been trying to decide how to begin this post.  In the end, straight to the point seems best. On May 9, 2012, at roughly 11:30 pm, my father died. I’ve had a couple of weeks to get used to … Continue reading

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Staring Across the Gulf

My dad recently turned 94 years old.  That’s quite a monumental bench-mark, particularly when you take into account that he’s only recently given up his driver’s license and put his car on the market.  If it weren’t for the crumbling ruin … Continue reading

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When You Least Expect It

Several blogs back, I wrote about my first real love and what a disastrous screw-up and total horror show that relationship turned out to be.  Names were changed to protect a certain party’s identity, but it was something I needed … Continue reading

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Gone Like a Wisp of Smoke

 (courtesy wikipedia) I meant to write about ice cream; how my favorite flavor has changed over the years, how I come back again and again to good old vanilla (not the yellowy so-called French vanilla, but the kind speckled with … Continue reading

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In Praise of the Imperfect Holiday (Once More With Feeling)

 (courtesy funadvice.com) (Someone recently asked me to repost this blog.  As it turns out, it was a good idea…for me.  Facing into the prospect of visits from people I’d rather avoid, I needed a reminder that most of the way one … Continue reading

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